A wonderful reader asked for a post on the topic of the fear of change, specifically as it crops up when dating someone. I think this is a great and relatable topic. These are my thoughts:
Change brings up a lot of fear. It’s natural to want to stick with a known situation rather than step into the unknown. One way to get more comfortable with this is to proactively look for ways to practice saying yes when a part of you wants to say no. Particularly by taking a leap into things that scare you. Anything worth doing will scare you at first.
My other thought is that when you are contemplating a big change, it’s normal to go back and forth for awhile, weighing the pros and cons and considering what you should do. But when you decide to go forward, a certain level of anxiety dissipates and you are then able to commit yourself more enthusiastically to your decision. I know I had this when I went back to school. I was soo torn as my friends can attest, but once I was going, I was going — tuition bills and all.
I hope these are two encouraging thoughts. Feel free to share your own!
