I’m struggling to find the sweet spot between too much hishtadlus and too little. Or really, between too much and just right. Can anyone relate? It’s that feeling of…maybe I should text this shadchan again. And, like, maybe again soon. Or email this person my resume, again, as a friendly reminder. Or meet another shadchan who works with this …
First of all, happy Tu B’Shvat! Now, this topic. The elephant in the room. I’ve avoided it for almost an entire year, but if this blog is meant for people in the parsha, we were going to acknowledge this issue at some point, weren’t we? So, let’s get this over with as quickly as possible and hope no one …
Recently I’ve been going through Journal to the Self, by Kathleen Adams, and learning about different journaling techniques. (This has been an ongoing fascination). I tried one of her ideas and it was so fun and helpful, I wanted to spread the word: character sketching. A character sketch is a written description of someone, which helps you get to …
I’m dashing off this post because I just read Sara Eisemann’s MatchQuest column in this week’s Family First, and the question and answer were so phenomenally on-target, I had to share. (The entire text is available through the above link.) I know that most of what I talk about on this blog is not actual dating or the process …
Hi, all. I hope you had an easy fast this week and are having a great summer so far. I’ve been busy planning a trip with a friend, and I’m so excited but I also have to admit that I can’t wait to be home, safe and sound! (Nerves). In the meantime, I’ve been listening to audiobooks and tutoring on the …
I’ve been meaning to share the backstory of this blog for a while, and here it is: This winter, a woman called me for shidduch information. She was very pleasant and the conversation was no big deal. We spoke for a few minutes, and then she said the following: “I don’t mean this disrespectfully but your friend is twenty-____ …
Sometimes on a date, it can be hard to think of meaningful questions in the moment. I decided to compile a list of dating conversation topics to help myself out, and it ended up becoming such a fun writing exercise. (I did a lot of this on the beach.) So, here it is…conversation topics to help you get to know …
There are lots of books on dating out there that come well-recommended. These are two that I’ve read, purchased, and continue to refer to and lend to friends. I think that a great dating book will encourage introspection and a growing awareness of your own strengths, weaknesses, needs, and wants. Both of these books fit the bill. They’re also very …
I read a short story printed in this past week’s Family First, “The Gardenia,” by Shayna Friedman. My younger sister (also shidduch-age) read it first, and she wasn’t sure if I should because it made her so sad. (Well, I did anyway). Briefly: the story is a vignette about a (self-described) older single who goes to the wedding of a …
It can be so hard when someone close to you starts dating someone seriously, and then suddenly there she is, putting a ring on it. In the midst of everyone’s excitement, you’re left feeling lonely and unsure of how to navigate your relationship. A change in dynamics can trigger a waterfall of emotions. You might be feeling insecure and anxious …
