I listened to a really interesting podcast episode about the history of the laugh track. Did you know that hearing a laugh track actually makes jokes seem funnier? That’s because of emotional contagion, the phenomenon where one person’s emotions trigger the same emotions in someone else. That’s also why the headlines we read each day and the images we look …
Hi, all, finally picking up the series again. When I left off, you were implementing your post-date self-care plan and getting ready to process your date. So, you came home from your date and to the best of your ability you were really on that date, just being present, so now you get to process. Here are some things that …
Here’s another dating metaphor that’s been helping me recently. This is something that comes up a lot for people who have been dating for a few years or longer — the phenomenon 😉 of hearing only repeat suggestions for a while. It can get to a point where you really believe there is no one else out there. I know …
A great strategy for mindful dating is to develop a self-care plan to implement after every date (not just the first but I’m inserting this mini-post here). To be most effective, this should be planned and ready to go in advance of the date so you have something cozy and supportive to look forward to no matter what happens. I …
Hey, all, let’s continue talking about dating through the lens of mindfulness. Last time we looked at pre-first date anxiety and ways to help yourself through that. Now let’s look at the first date itself. First dates are really nerve-wracking. Second and third dates etc, also. But first dates are uniquely nerve-wracking because there’s that Big Reveal. The …
So far we looked at suggestion-dread and shidduch research. I wanted to talk a bit about anxiety before a first date because that used to knock me flat. It’s a lot easier for me now but still not always a picnic. When I use the term anxiety here, I don’t mean it lightly: dating really triggers situational anxiety in …
Hi, everyone. I hope you’re doing well. Continuing on with our series on mindful dating: shidduch research, everyone’s favorite activity. In this post I’ll give a few practical suggestions but mostly I’ll focus on you and your feelings during the research stage of a shidduch. So as with any aspect of shidduchim, getting a guy’s resume and going …
Okaaay, folks! We’re back in business. Over the next few weeks, I am be”H going to be working on a series of posts on mindful dating. I brainstormed a list of topics about the stress and anxiety of the shidduch process, and I’m hoping to address them all in this series. You might relate to some or all or none …
Relationships are developed through communication, the more honest and authentic, the better. Sometimes when we’re in a dating relationship, though, it’s hard to communicate with confidence, and we fall into a dance of uncertainty: What should I bring up, and when and how, and how can I ask without really asking, and hopefully the conversation will just go there, and …
I’m dashing off this post because I just read Sara Eisemann’s MatchQuest column in this week’s Family First, and the question and answer were so phenomenally on-target, I had to share. (The entire text is available through the above link.) I know that most of what I talk about on this blog is not actual dating or the process …
