Last year I had written about how it can be hard to figure out who I am and to define myself in terms of spirituality and different standards. My guess is that this is a hard topic for many people. I have some thoughts… (Just want to say, it’s hard to use specific examples as there are nuances in …
My friend sent me an excerpt from “Risk Factor” by Rabbi Yosef Bensoussan, which appeared in the February 5th edition of Mishpacha. I thought it was amazing, just reading it gave me the chills: Quiet. Then sniffling. Then tears. A lot of tears. “It’s so much pressure!” she yelled. “Everyone keeps asking why I’m not married yet. It’s like …
Most (if not all) of us have met or worked with professional shadchanim over the years. I personally have done quite a bit of that, and I’ve had…a variety of experiences. (Don’t get me wrong; some of them have been wonderful). I’ve had this post in the works for a while but I’m finally putting it up here. These …
Happy Tu B’Shvat! Today we are celebrating the new year for the trees — but they don’t seem to be changing. And outwardly, they’re not. As you may have learned in school, what we’re really celebrating is the sap’s rising, which will eventually nurture the trees into all their spring glory. But we’ve a while yet… For the human …
Last week, I posted a list of things you can do as hishtadlus towards meeting your bashert. In response, a reader emailed me about something that was not mentioned on the list, and has never been addressed on this blog. That is, the topic of shidduch photos. Now, in general I have not written about what I call “shidduch logistics,” …
Hi, all. Happy zos Chanukah. I have to start off with a confession: at this point, I’m all-in as a Mishpacha reader — so many fires to put out… Several weeks ago, the magazine ran an essay written by a single woman. The gist of it was that just as idealistic young women will abandon the chinuch field …
Oh, Chanukah, you came so quickly (wasn’t it just Elul?!) and now you’re halfway over. You came so quickly, in fact, that I was utterly unprepared for you (I know, I know, I did think about presents, but not much else, to be honest). Well, I’ll think about you now. And this is what I’m thinking: darkness candle winter miracle …
One of my favorite books from the past year or so was Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear, by Elizabeth Gilbert. It’s about creativity and authenticity and how to use your ideas, and I recommend it to anyone, not just creative types. This quote was particularly inspiring: “If you can’t do what you long to do, go do something …
Relationships are developed through communication, the more honest and authentic, the better. Sometimes when we’re in a dating relationship, though, it’s hard to communicate with confidence, and we fall into a dance of uncertainty: What should I bring up, and when and how, and how can I ask without really asking, and hopefully the conversation will just go there, and …
Ahh, good old female friendship. It’s what keeps us going through the ups and downs of work, family, school, and of course, shidduchim. But as adults, our situations may be somewhat transient, as friends get married and move away (or we do!), jobs change, graduations happen…and every so often, a new friend or two is in order. A reader posed …
