Hey, all, let’s continue talking about dating through the lens of mindfulness. Last time we looked at pre-first date anxiety and ways to help yourself through that. Now let’s look at the first date itself. First dates are really nerve-wracking. Second and third dates etc, also. But first dates are uniquely nerve-wracking because there’s that Big Reveal. The …
So far we looked at suggestion-dread and shidduch research. I wanted to talk a bit about anxiety before a first date because that used to knock me flat. It’s a lot easier for me now but still not always a picnic. When I use the term anxiety here, I don’t mean it lightly: dating really triggers situational anxiety in …
This week I listened to a free lecture series by JOWMA, the Jewish Orthodox Women’s Medical Association. I thought I’d recap a bit of what was presented as far as it related to single women. This is by no means comprehensive, nor is it medical advice and should not take the place of having a conversation with your doctor. However, …
Hi, everyone. I hope you’re doing well. Continuing on with our series on mindful dating: shidduch research, everyone’s favorite activity. In this post I’ll give a few practical suggestions but mostly I’ll focus on you and your feelings during the research stage of a shidduch. So as with any aspect of shidduchim, getting a guy’s resume and going …
Okaaay, folks! We’re back in business. Over the next few weeks, I am be”H going to be working on a series of posts on mindful dating. I brainstormed a list of topics about the stress and anxiety of the shidduch process, and I’m hoping to address them all in this series. You might relate to some or all or none …
Rosh Hashanah is in less than two weeks and I don’t really know what to do with that. It’s been so many months without structure, I don’t have that “new school year” adrenaline rush that usually revs me up for the Yomim Noraim. I was reviewing previous Rosh Hashanah posts and it hit me that each year when I …
I don’t think I ever talked about the concept of yimei ha’ahava and yimei hasinah from Rav Wolbe on this blog. Which is interesting to me because at one point it was a paradigm I thought about all the time. I’m noticing that certain concepts or ideas float in and out of my mind at different times and when I …
Remember how I said that I wanted to learn how to bake challah? Well, it’s happening. I’ve actually been interested in learning how to bake challah for months, since long before my “Shabbos project.” One of my friends offered to teach me back when but then the lockdowns happened so that was put on hold. A few weeks ago …
Two weeks ago I wrote about the ambiguous loss of singlehood, a concept I just learned about in my research for a school paper. The concept resonated strongly with me and based on the feedback I’ve received, with you, too. If you have the time or inclination, I’d highly recommend reading the full text of the journal article (citation …
Last year I wrote about how I plan to celebrate Tu B’Av once I’m married. Well, this year I decided to celebrate it single! As mentioned last year, Tu B’Av is mesugal for connection. If Tisha B’Av is a day we can mourn the ambiguous loss of singlehood, why can’t Tu B’Av be a day we celebrate the hope and …
