Hey, all. We are up to the most fun phase (in my opinion) of the finding your half-orange process! It’s time to let go of the pressure to get married and just live a happy life! After all, if one of the main reasons we want to get married is to be happy, why not skip straight to the happiness …
Fertility and prenatal health have been on my mind a lot recently. These are really important topics we need to know more about. In this post, I will share some information that single women should be aware of. Feel free to add anything I may have missed in the comments below. Also, please note that this is not medical advice …
Hi, everyone. I hope you are doing well. Onto some more dating optimism! Step #1 was about focusing on your belief that you can have what you dream of. Step #2 was about going all in on wanting it even if it’s scary or uncomfortable. Step #3 is about identifying what it is that you really want. For …
Hi, everyone. Last week we started working through the six steps in the book Meeting Your Half-Orange, by Amy Spencer. To recap, the first step is to connect to the belief inside of you that you truly can have the relationship you dream of, focus on improving the quality of your thoughts around dating and marriage, and frame your thoughts …
Hey, all. For the next bit I’d like to do a series based on the book Meeting Your Half-Orange: An Utterly Upbeat Guide to Using Dating Optimism to Find Your Perfect Match, by Amy Spencer. The book is divided into six steps to help you, well, meet your half-orange, also known as your perfect match. I’ve started reading this book …
The #1 concern shared by my readers (and by me) is the question: how do I know my husband is really out there? How do I know I’ll find him? And what if I don’t? You have probably discussed this with people over the years and been reminded that the bas kol proclaimed “bas ploni l’ploni” 40 days before …
I was going to write about the third top struggle you shared in the survey, the fear of not finding the right person, but that post will wait a bit. I want to share another one first, inspired by Cinderella’s glass slipper in Monday’s post. Many of us grew up with fairytales like Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty, in one …
The second of the top three challenges you shared in the survey was not having dates. We haven’t talked enough about that here, so let’s get into it. When I was in my low 20’s, I had a conversation with one of my uncles about shidduchim. I was very down and said that no one was interested in me. …
One of the top three dating struggles you shared in the survey was the fear that there is something wrong with you or that you are doing something wrong in shidduchim. Let’s try to put that fear to rest. Several years ago I listened to a shiur by Mrs. Dina Schoonmaker on emunah in shidduchim (it was live …
I’ve been in shidduchim for many years now, and there were times I was extremely lonely and times I wasn’t lonely at all. It depended on a few factors, including how interested I was in marriage, how many close friends were around, and what other fulfilling relationships — like new friends I made at work, or my extended family — …
