A couple weeks ago someone sent me a resume (and picture) and asked what I thought of the idea for me. It always makes me feel a little bad and sad to say no (but I do it). I looked at the picture and I thought how painful it is that innocent people need to be judged all the time in the process of shidduchim. It’s easy and also a tempting protective mechanism to dehumanize each other and reduce each other to pieces of paper, checklists, and awkwardly-written blurbs. Shidduchim with compassion requires us to hold onto our own and each other’s humanity and feel how painful this is for everyone. I looked at the picture and thought, “I want you to be gebencht every day of your life. I want you to be loved. I want you to be happy.”
Maybe we should attach our baby pictures to our shidduch resumes.
