Recently a friend asked if I knew what a mutual acquaintance is looking for in a shidduch, as she had a guy in mind. I answered that I didn’t know but that it was nice of her to try and work on an idea. She shared that she didn’t want to ask the girl herself so that she wouldn’t “get her hopes up.” This honestly surprised me because I’m usually touched when people tell me they’re thinking about me. However, I can understand how hearing about someone’s shidduch idea and then never hearing from them again, or thinking for a fleeting moment that something sounds so right until it really doesn’t, can be painful, too.
So question for you: which do you prefer, and why — hearing about shidduch ideas that don’t pan out, or not hearing about them to begin with? Does it depend on who the shadchan is and how they approach you? What other factors impact how you feel about this?
I like when someone reaches out to me directly and says i have an idea can i have your stuff — AND THEN FOLLOW UP AFTERWARDS…. tell me he wasn’t available or any other random story – don’t just take my stuff and not give me any form of an update
Yess I also really want some kind of follow-up with me so I can close that tab or whatever