This week my roommate helped me prepare for a job interview. We discussed what I would say when the interviewer would inevitably ask why I left Career #1. I hemmed and hawed, not sure how my answers sounded, when my roommate said, “You could just tell them you didn’t like it so you switched to something you enjoy.” This …
I’ve been in shidduchim for many years now, and there were times I was extremely lonely and times I wasn’t lonely at all. It depended on a few factors, including how interested I was in marriage, how many close friends were around, and what other fulfilling relationships — like new friends I made at work, or my extended family — …
A long time ago, I wrote about the importance of always having something to look forward to. At the time I was near the beginning of my graduate school journey; now I’m almost done. I am so incredibly grateful that I took the plunge and went back to school. Looking back on the past two years, I see that every …
I read the following in Kitchen Table Wisdom: Stories That Heal, by Dr. Rachel Naomi Remen: I had thought joy to be rather synonymous with happiness, but it seems now [after having worked with many seriously ill patients] to be far less vulnerable than happiness. Joy seems to be part of an unconditional wish to live, not holding back …
Last week we talked about the pain of rejection, which is so real and present for many of us. At the same time, there is the struggle of being the one to say no yourself, and for some women (wildly raises hand) this is very difficult to do. Like extremely, in some cases (keeps hand raised). Because many of us …
I listened to a really interesting podcast episode about the history of the laugh track. Did you know that hearing a laugh track actually makes jokes seem funnier? That’s because of emotional contagion, the phenomenon where one person’s emotions trigger the same emotions in someone else. That’s also why the headlines we read each day and the images we look …
One of my friends knows to expect a certain text from me every so often: What am I doing wrong? Nothing, you’re doing everything you can be doing. There must be something I’m forgetting. Something. No, you do hishtadlus, you go out, you work on yourself, you have people you talk to. There must be another …
I’ve been meaning to write about this not-so-cheery topic for awhile but I had to get into the right frame of mind. So, let’s talk about putting yourself out there, trying (to get an appointment with a shadchan, to get a date, to date well, to like someone), rejection, maybe repeated rejection, chronic rejection, and the impact on your self-worth. …
Hey, all, hope you’re well. I recently listened to a segment of this Headlines podcast episode, specifically the interview with Tova Weinstein at 1:13:46, and I was cheering every word! I am so grateful to Tova for publicly saying what I (and I’m sure many other women) have been feeling. The points she makes: No matter what assurances people …
Hey, everyone. Time for part two of the survey review! I opened the floor to questions, and here I’ll answer many of them as best as I can. How old are you? Older than my average reader, apparently! But I started my blog about four years ago, and it’s interesting to me to kind of see the layers of …
