Please Define The Following Terms
Before we can have a conversation about your wonderful shidduch suggestion for me or your wonderful advice for how I should be doing things differently, I am going to need you to define the following:
“But You’re Not So Old”
A reader shared that it can be irritating when people write off her struggles in shidduchim because “you’re not so old.” I empathize with that and I really don’t think it’s fair to compare, because no one has a monopoly on pain. Where do comparisons end? After all, 22 isn’t 27 isn’t 33 isn’t 39. Each stage comes with …
Perhaps
Some items buzzing around my head are hard to categorize. Does this belong on a brainstorming list? A wish list? A to-do list? Many items on my mind can be grouped under the heading Perhaps. Perhaps I will take this training. Perhaps I will visit this country. Perhaps I will date this person. Perhaps I will write this book. …
Seeds
Good morning. Last night I listened to a beautiful shiur given by Rabbi Moshe Weinberger. It starts at 19 minutes. If you have time, I suggest giving it a listen. I hope you have a meaningful Tu B’Shvat and eat some wonderful fruits.
Shabbos Kallah Kiddush
I have every intention of having a non-awkward Shabbos kallah, unusual though that may be. I have given it some thought and I think I’ve identified what it is that people would enjoy (including the kallah). And that is a Shabbos kallah kiddush. A nice one, with kugel and herring and strawberry shortcake 🙂 . I think this could be …
Attachment
I wrote a paper on the subject of attachment theory a while back and I thought it might be interesting to share an excerpt. John Bowlby first developed attachment theory in the 1950s through his work with neglected children. Based on his observations, Bowlby concluded that in order to thrive, children need to feel connected to a primary caregiver …
NYC Day
Hi, all! It’s nice to be back here. I hope you are well. Recently I went to the city for an appointment, and I decided to make a little trip out of it. I walked from the doctor at Seventh Avenue and West 57th Street all the way to the Metropolitan Museum of Art at Fifth and 82nd. I …
Winter Break
Hi, all. I am going to be taking a couple weeks’ break from blogging. I’ll be back January 10, 2022 iy”H. In the meantime, you can submit questions, comments or suggestions here! Thank you so much for being a reader. Have a wonderful week!
An Independent Mindset
Last week we talked about establishing independence while living with your parents. In some circles in the frum world, young adults routinely move out of their parents’ homes after graduating seminary/college, but in others, that’s not a given. Where this is the case, it’s easy to get stuck in a sort of limbo identity, not a child but not quite …
Daters’ Spa Retreat
In my imagination, there is a place I can go when I am dating someone and feeling stressed out. It’s a large inn where I can move in and rest and relax, to be nurtured and pampered. My room has a big cozy bed with fluffy pillows and blankets, a fireplace, and a deep squashy armchair for reading. The windows …