I wrote a paper on the subject of attachment theory a while back and I thought it might be interesting to share an excerpt. John Bowlby first developed attachment theory in the 1950s through his work with neglected children. Based on his observations, Bowlby concluded that in order to thrive, children need to feel connected to a primary caregiver …
Hi, all! It’s nice to be back here. I hope you are well. Recently I went to the city for an appointment, and I decided to make a little trip out of it. I walked from the doctor at Seventh Avenue and West 57th Street all the way to the Metropolitan Museum of Art at Fifth and 82nd. I …
Hi, all. I am going to be taking a couple weeks’ break from blogging. I’ll be back January 10, 2022 iy”H. In the meantime, you can submit questions, comments or suggestions here! Thank you so much for being a reader. Have a wonderful week!
Last week we talked about establishing independence while living with your parents. In some circles in the frum world, young adults routinely move out of their parents’ homes after graduating seminary/college, but in others, that’s not a given. Where this is the case, it’s easy to get stuck in a sort of limbo identity, not a child but not quite …
In my imagination, there is a place I can go when I am dating someone and feeling stressed out. It’s a large inn where I can move in and rest and relax, to be nurtured and pampered. My room has a big cozy bed with fluffy pillows and blankets, a fireplace, and a deep squashy armchair for reading. The windows …
Someone in my family once sent me a long text about a guy I said no to, asking if I was “100% sure” I wasn’t interested, stating that “normal guys are very few and far between” and if I said no there was a “99% chance he would never say yes again.” Reading these things was obviously very triggering. …
A reader asked for a post on the topic of developing an independent life while you are living at home (with your parents). This is a great question. My first thought is that independence is largely a state of mind. The stage from about ages 18-29 is known as emerging adulthood in psychology. It’s when we learn about ourselves …
Jealousy can be a scary word that carries heavy associations. If I’m jealous, does that mean I’m a bad person? Isn’t it one of the worst traits a person can have? I remember desperately trying to force myself to not be jealous when my best friend got engaged when we were 21. I know now that I was so young …
The following excerpt is from The Midnight Library, by Matt Haig, a novel I loved so much (but which isn’t for everyone; the language is really not great). This passage made me cry. “You need to realize something if you are ever to succeed at chess,” she said… “And the thing you need to realize is this: the game …
Recently I created a few vision boards and I hung them together on one wall of my room. They add so much positivity (in a good way) to my room and I totally recommend you do this too! I make vision boards by cutting out pictures and words from magazines and gluing them onto large pieces of paper. I based …
