Over the years, I have thought about a common experience that comes up in shidduchim. Sometimes it happens before a date or even when I know someone is working on an idea for me. I find myself counting on this one thing working out. I start believing that if it doesn’t, the disappointment will just be too hard. I’ve thought …
My clients discussed the concept of hope in our support group last week. Each group member is dealing with a serious illness, and one of them brought up a story she had heard on television. A father and son were in Auschwitz together, and one night the father used their ration of margarine to light a flame for Chanukah. The …
I just had to share the link to this TED Talk with Barbara Sher (author of Refuse to Choose!, among other books, mentioned here). In this speech, she describes the role of virtual strangers in helping us achieve our dreams. So good. Barbara passed away in 2020, or I would have totally tried to meet her in person after watching …
Sociologist Mark Granovetter wrote that the most successful networking usually happens between acquaintances rather than close friends. This is because friend groups tend to know a lot of the same people whereas more distant acquaintances can link us up with new connections (like their own friend groups). Relationships with acquaintances are known as “weak ties” and studies show that …
Hi all! I hope you had a wonderful Purim. I had such a fun one (wearing this). After Purim I wrote a list of thoughts that were swirling through my head: The beginning of the day — less driving, more delivering. Later in the day — more driving, less delivering (more traffic, and fewer people at home). Every year …
Hey, all. Eons ago I started reading The Hidden Life of Trees by Peter Wohlleben and I recently picked it up again and was struck by this amazing statistic: Every tree leaves behind, on average, one tree to replace it. In other words, of all the thousands and millions of seeds a tree produces in its lifetime, an average of …
Hello, all. First I must apologize for not writing all week — I’d been in a good groove with posting but last week was hectic. I’m pleased to share that dinner went really well! It was four of us and we had the nicest time. The hour flew by and we all agreed we must do it again soon. …
I searched Modern Mrs. Darcy, a book review blog, for an old post and found this great one. I have not read the book referenced — 168 Hours: You Have More Time Than You Think, by Laura Vanderkam — but I am absolutely planning on doing the exercise mentioned of making a list of 100 dreams. Off the top of …
A while ago I wrote about how I am comfortable with my married friends because most of them got married after some time in shidduchim and we can still relate to each other. Recently, I ventured into new terrain — reconnecting with married classmates who I have not been in touch with for awhile and/or who got married a long …
I feel like I am Alice, fallen down the rabbit hole to Wonderland, where everyone has their own logic and nothing actually makes sense. I say one thing and the person I’m talking to hears another and I’m pretty sure I was clear but maybe I don’t speak the right language for this particular setting? Or I mosey along …
