I’m having a moment here, and I’m reflecting… If I could do it over, I would erase every workshop I took on shidduchim. I would erase every speech I trustingly absorbed. I would erase every formula. Every manual. Every checklist I was given. I would wipe the slate clean and just be me, a bright-eyed romantic looking for a …
Hello, all. Recently I listened to a terrific interview about relationship red flags with Lisa Twerski. Even if you’ve learned about how to identify dating red flags, I think this episode is worth a listen. Another resource I enjoyed is this video where Rachel Tuchman and Elisheva Liss talk about The Surrendered Wife approach to relationships and healthier ways …
It’s hard for me to believe I’m voluntarily writing yet another midterm paper when I just finished school five minutes ago, but here we are. I can’t seem to stay away. Social work is a unique profession within the broader mental health field in that it primarily focuses on the person within their environment and on addressing broader social …
I’m back at work in person one day a week, and I’m fortunate enough to have an office on a really high floor in a building in Chelsea. I face my office window most of the day and watch helicopters circle above the Hudson River. I watch seagulls sail by and imagine what it would be like to fly over …
A few months ago I took a poetry therapy workshop where we did a number of exercises based on various poems. We read the following excerpt from “In Blackwater Woods,” by Mary Oliver: “…To live in this world you must be able to do three things: to love what is mortal; to hold it against your bones knowing your …
At one point a few years ago, I gave myself a “shidduchim bedtime.” I had to stop thinking about shidduchim, checking WhatsApp and email, and waiting to hear back from people by 10:45 PM (the end of the civilized evening). Otherwise I’d compulsively check my phone just one more time as I got ready for a shower, got ready for …
When we (as a community) talk about “older singles,” we talk about statistics and we talk about self-sabotage. And that is all we talk about. Whether there is any constructive purpose to these conversations is up for discussion. I’m not weighing in now, but I am saying that, at minimum, I don’t think this is all that the conversation …
Hello, all. I had hoped to write up something nice for Shavuos but suddenly, here we are. So this is a link to a Shavuos packet from Partners in Torah. I love their “Y”T in 30 minutes” packets because they give such a thorough and clear review of everything we should know about the Y”T. Previous Shavuos posts on this blog …
Sometimes you have the itch to write to get something – niggling thoughts, nervous energy – out of your system. Here is a bank of topics for when you’re casting about for something fresh to write about. (Apparently I wrote this list about three years ago and haven’t read it since, and now I’m itching to work my way through …
Recently I listened to an episode of the Headlines podcast on “What makes a successful marriage?” Chani Juravel (at 39:00) shared four qualities she heard from Dr. David Pelcovitz that are important for a good marriage (a few readers have asked for posts on ways to develop yourself into the best you before marriage, and I hope this is helpful!). …
