This post has been in the works forever. I’ve written about other hard stuff — rejection, loneliness, and ambiguous loss — but not enough about heartbreak. I have to admit that before I experienced heartbreak, it seemed mysterious and romantic to me: imagine having had a relationship that was “real” enough to matter when it ended.
Something undeniable: I find it easier to read secular books/articles about dating and being single than I do anything frum on the same topics. It’s like a sensitivity I’ve developed over the past few years; shidduchim-talk pushes my buttons. Instead, more generic encouragement and advice is easier to integrate and helps me feel supported. I’m not sure why this is, …
Gretchen Rubin shared a writing exercise to capture a person or place, called the Five-Senses Portrait. For each of the five senses (hearing, seeing, tasting, smelling, touching), you write a list of five associations to create a sensory snapshot of that person or place. I decided to write a five-senses portrait for my childhood summer spot, but once I got …
Hey, all. At the beginning of the calendar year, I wrote a list of — not goals, exactly; more like to-do items that I wanted to keep on my radar. Now that we are at the halfway point of the year, I’m taking inventory of what has and has not happened so far:
When it came time to book my flight to New Orleans, I told my supervisor, “It’s too early! Something will come up between now and my trip!” She laughed, because what could possibly change in four months? 😉 Well, my friend got engaged…and her wedding date coincided with the conference. It was pretty clear that I had to keep my …
Hey, all, a couple weeks ago I asked what’s on your bucket list, and here are some items you shared:
One of my friends told me recently that she started to get regular manicures because she realized she was only getting them for dates and she wanted to have them for herself, too. I thought it was funny that I’ve had the exact opposite reaction; I used to get manicures all the time for dates (Essie’s “Meet Me at the …
Liminal space is a term to describe the place we occupy during a transition, between one place and another. I think of this term often when I think about dating, especially in our system where life can take on a frozen, suspended feeling when you begin dating someone. You’re not available, you’re not committed, you’re just…in between somewhere. And being …
Last week I went to a work conference(!) and spent five days in the Big Easy. I had this trip planned for months and months, and it’s hard to believe it’s actually over.
Hi, all. I’ll be away for the week, so all is quiet here until next Monday. In the meantime, I’d love to read what’s on your bucket list. And also, I want to thank you for your comments (I loooove comments). I hope you have a great week, and how about enjoying some classic summer fun, like:
