One of my married friends/moral supporters recently shared something she learned from Dina Friedman, the popular teacher.
People say that shidduchim is about compromise. While every shidduch entails acceptance of the full package, which will always include at least some “imperfection,” Dina Friedman teaches a method for feeling that you are not compromising at all. Basically, for every imperfection that you perceive (once you like the guy! this is not about convincing yourself that you like him!), think about the positive flip side that that imperfection comes with. Think about the ways that quality is just right for you and what good it adds to your relationship and your life. You can truly have a relationship in which you feel that you did not compromise but got exactly what you needed (because you did!).
I love this piece of advice!
