I told my uncle about a dilemma I have regarding guys who are interested in going out with me but who are not what I am looking for. I continue to struggle to find the balance between thoroughness and diligence, which feel productive and self-determined, and guilt and anxiety, which disempower me and make me feel compelled to do things even if they make my process harder.
My uncle suggested I mark the calendar for twice a year — say, January and July — and when those dates roll around I say yes to someone I might otherwise say no to. This allows me to put the guilting voices to rest and know that I am trying to keep things in motion, regardless of whether I marry any of those guys or not.
I love this idea!
