Happy Rosh Chodesh Adar! Mishenichnas Adar marbim b’simcha – so let’s discuss simcha. This is a topic that comes up rather often on the blog, as it’s something that can be a struggle for anyone going through a nisayon (and not just shidduchim, obviously!). Recently, two married friends told me, separately, that the number one best thing I …
I just submitted my application to an MSW program. This would be my second master’s degree. I’m not 100% sure that I’ll go through with it even if I am accepted to the program. Right now, I’m okay in my current field, although I definitely have moments when I’m sure I need to be doing something different, and that that …
I stumbled upon an interesting concept in a book recently. Social psychologist Roy Baumeister studies “anticipated aloneness” and the effects that envisioning being alone in the future has on people. Just imagining future rejection and loneliness actually knocks people’s IQ down a few points and makes it harder for them to engage in rational thought about anything. The problem …
I really have to admit that I do not enjoy exercising. Like at all. I know they say it releases endorphins and whatnot and makes you happier but no matter what I do, I can’t seem to find an exercise routine I enjoy. I don’t even like running! (Any suggestions?) Recently, my friend shared the simplest idea for making exercise …
My younger sister is engaged. The one who was in elementary school when I was in seminary. I didn’t think this would really happen. When I sat down to write this post, I wasn’t sure which direction to take it in. To let you know how I’m doing? To share chizuk with anyone in the same situation? To philosophize …
This summer, I bought one of those detailed coloring books for adults but I abandoned it after a few days. Maybe some people find coloring in such intricate pictures to be relaxing, but not me! But recently one of my friends told me that I had to try coloring again — any kind of coloring. She told me to try …
This is the work lunch that makes me happy to be at work 🙂 You know those build-your-own-salad bars at the bagel or pizza store? You can recreate the same experience at home by putting together your own tossed salad. Here are some components you can include: a base of romaine, mixed greens, etc. cherry tomatoes cucumbers red onion sliced …
I learned how to breathe five years ago. I mean, oxygen had been getting to my brain with regularity until then, thank G-d, but I wasn’t truly breathing. My supervisor at work pointed this out (awkward) and showed me how it’s really done. Here’s the thing: While most of us are able to b”H breathe on our own, many …
I wrote the following on recognizing signs of emotional abuse in the workplace. This is my advice from one friend to another based on personal experience, but if any of this rings familiar, please talk to someone who is qualified to guide you in navigating your way out. First and foremost, always make sure you have a rav you …
So, no, this is not an easy thing to be doing in your twenties or beyond. The manager at my bank branch always asks me if I’m still living at home. “Actually, yes.” “Smart girl!” she says. “Stay there as long as you can.” And I’m like, “Thanks, Candace.” But seriously, there’s this tug-of-war. On the one hand, …
