Public service announcement: Your “yes” only means something if you have the choice to say “no.” I read an article a few weeks ago in which the author seemed to misunderstand the term “people-pleasing.” She gave the impression that a people-pleaser is someone who is unusually kind and selfless. Now, they may be that, too. But actually, a people-pleaser …
In February I read a fun and different book, Love Will Find You, by Kathryn Alice. The book went through a number of steps and exercises for helping you surmount old obstacles and negativity about dating, become open to accepting love, and attract the right person into your life. I don’t need to tell you that I see this kind of …
Just a friendly reminder that you never need to apologize for:
A long while back, a reader and I exchanged emails about a few topics that hadn’t been covered here. She requested a post on this topic and now…here it is, y’all. (Better late than never?) Basically, the question is: How do I keep dating from taking over my life? I find that when I’m in the midst of a …
My friends are so wise, so I wanted to share another bit of advice one of them gave me. I was telling her about something I started doing every week that costs a fair bit and is making a tangible difference in my life. She said: “If something is working, keep doing it.” As in: if debriefing with …
Do you ever experience those fleeting moments of de ja vu, when you feel the wonder of being a kid again? I just got that feeling when I skimmed through the cutest book, The Happy Life Checklist: 654 Simple Ways to Find Your Bliss, by Amy Spencer. These are my favorite suggestions (and after the intense posts of the past …
This past Shabbos, I was away with some friends and we were cracking up because anytime someone complimented someone else on a piece of jewelry, she would automatically add, “Did you buy that for yourself?” Looks like we’ve all gotten used to getting ourselves gifts. (It’s a good thing!) For Chanukah, I’m thinking about a cookbook — like The …
I like to use WhatsApp for the convenience, but waiting for those double blue checks to appear can become addictive, especially when I really want to hear back from someone. A few weeks ago, I made one small change that’s made a huge difference — turning off read receipts (no blue checks for either me or the person I’m messaging). …
I went to E”Y for a week in August. Originally I had no plans to go away this summer but as it sometimes happens with trips to E”Y, one day I realized that I just needed to go, and I bought a ticket the next day. I went (as usual) without anything on schedule and just a few tentative …
I write in my journal almost every day. Sometimes I write a few paragraphs and sometimes I write more than five pages. I write about anything that comes to mind — stuff going on in my life, creative ideas, to-do lists…Sometimes I reread what I write and sometimes I don’t. I try to keep to it regularly even when I’m …
