Category: Relationships

Just a short post to share how I’m trying to contribute to the war effort, and maybe you can share your own thoughts and ideas.

There is really nothing to say. I had a bunch of posts in mind over Y”T and nothing seems appropriate for this moment. It is such a painful, painful time for all of us. When unspeakably horrible and infuriating events happen, it does have the effect of “right-sizing” everything else, not to minimize but just to provide perspective of what …

This post is inspired by the AMA (ask me anything) trend on imamother.com (a website I enjoy perusing for mild entertainment value, yummy-sounding menus, and reasons to be grateful for the problems I do have, oy). In the spirit of an actual AMA, I posed a number of…candid questions to myself that the clueless-but-curious might want answered about the life …

Hello, all. I hope you had a meaningful Yom Kippur. This time of year – new beginnings, Yom Tov, family time – often brings up emotions, so in that spirit, I present a companion post to “Things you don’t have to do just because you’re single.”

Thinking about work, in the vein of yesterday’s post. Six years ago I wrote about how lonely I was being the only frum person where I worked and how happy I was to change jobs to work with other frum people. It’s so interesting, now I kind of feel the opposite. I am the only frum person where I work …

This week ran away — I kept meaning to write but it just didn’t happen.   I’ve been itching to write in a forum that is not anonymous. So many thoughts on that. My anonymity allows me to write authentically about the many emotions of being single, in a way that’s true and deep and clear. But the anonymity is …

It happened in Disney World a couple years ago, in New Orleans, and in Austria: I kept thinking about what my children would enjoy. It was like psychically my mind knows I’m the right age to be traveling with children, so it scanned for kid-friendly activities, made schedule adjustments, etc. I almost always feel that my children are real, in …

A friend sent me an absolutely beautiful article written by Chani Juravel, LCSW, in The Voice of Lakewood. I so appreciate supportive sentiments like these. So often, people fall short of being actually supportive by qualifying their statements instead of going in 100% in support without also mixing in some blame/responsibility. Grateful for an article that does none of that. …

A newly married friend shared that it took about a month for her to get used to being engaged. I had said, “It must be an amazing experience to be a 30-year-old kallah” (for context – we were talking about the benefits of getting married “older” and how we are just calmer and more grounded in general). She replied that …

A friend and I were talking about a struggle we grappled with when our younger sisters got engaged. The brain is a pattern-finding machine. It always wants to find a reason for why things happen. So when you fully expected to be the one to get engaged first, your brain wants to know why you weren’t. And it starts to …