My friend sent me an excerpt from “Risk Factor” by Rabbi Yosef Bensoussan, which appeared in the February 5th edition of Mishpacha. I thought it was amazing, just reading it gave me the chills: Quiet. Then sniffling. Then tears. A lot of tears. “It’s so much pressure!” she yelled. “Everyone keeps asking why I’m not married yet. It’s like …
Most (if not all) of us have met or worked with professional shadchanim over the years. I personally have done quite a bit of that, and I’ve had…a variety of experiences. (Don’t get me wrong; some of them have been wonderful). I’ve had this post in the works for a while but I’m finally putting it up here. These …
Happy Tu B’Shvat! Today we are celebrating the new year for the trees — but they don’t seem to be changing. And outwardly, they’re not. As you may have learned in school, what we’re really celebrating is the sap’s rising, which will eventually nurture the trees into all their spring glory. But we’ve a while yet… For the human …
It’s the end of the week and I haven’t posted anything. I’m tired. And I don’t want to leave this space too quiet because I don’t like that, when blogs I follow go quiet, so I’m just letting you know that I’m tired. I have schoolwork that has to get done. I’m trying to stay on top …
As I’ve picked up a few more magazines than usual in the past several months, I couldn’t help but notice certain determined little advertisements denouncing the people who are “causing the shidduch crisis” (boys who start dating after age 21…) Honestly, I was intrigued when I saw a website listed and everything so I had to check it out. …
I just found a response by Debbie Greenblatt to the piece Mishpacha printed from my post, “The Third Option.” To ‘Name Withheld’: While I laud your perspective of rising above the fray to ‘choose you’, a more valid Torah-based approach would be to choose what Hashem would like of you in this difficult situation, as best as you can …
Last week, I posted a list of things you can do as hishtadlus towards meeting your bashert. In response, a reader emailed me about something that was not mentioned on the list, and has never been addressed on this blog. That is, the topic of shidduch photos. Now, in general I have not written about what I call “shidduch logistics,” …
Hi, all. Happy zos Chanukah. I have to start off with a confession: at this point, I’m all-in as a Mishpacha reader — so many fires to put out… Several weeks ago, the magazine ran an essay written by a single woman. The gist of it was that just as idealistic young women will abandon the chinuch field …
One of my favorite books from the past year or so was Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear, by Elizabeth Gilbert. It’s about creativity and authenticity and how to use your ideas, and I recommend it to anyone, not just creative types. This quote was particularly inspiring: “If you can’t do what you long to do, go do something …
Relationships are developed through communication, the more honest and authentic, the better. Sometimes when we’re in a dating relationship, though, it’s hard to communicate with confidence, and we fall into a dance of uncertainty: What should I bring up, and when and how, and how can I ask without really asking, and hopefully the conversation will just go there, and …
