I recently read a comment on an article on a frum website to the effect of “women in abusive relationships should work on themselves because often, abuse is a response to the wife’s behavior.” Oh my goodness. No, no, and no. What on earth? Abuse is never the victim’s fault. Never. Abuse is the abuser’s problem. It is a …
A few weeks ago, a line jumped out at me in an article I was reading in one of the frum women’s magazines. It went something like, “It feels like yesterday that I was a teen but at 30, I’m practically a mother of teens myself.” Say what? I once wrote a post about throwing away the timelines, …
Just a friendly reminder that you never need to apologize for:
A long while back, a reader and I exchanged emails about a few topics that hadn’t been covered here. She requested a post on this topic and now…here it is, y’all. (Better late than never?) Basically, the question is: How do I keep dating from taking over my life? I find that when I’m in the midst of a …
It’s really easy to look back at a past dating experience and tell yourself that you could have, should have made it work. That you over-analyzed. That you should have gotten over the way you felt. That if he had X, Y and Z going for him, you should have been okay with the limitations your relationship would’ve had. Because …
At the end of February, right before everything shut down, a friend was working on an international shidduch for me and I was all, “I think I should fly to meet him, it’s ridiculous to meet someone over Zoom.” Hahahaha. Apparently it’s not so ridiculous, after all. This new frontier in shidduch dating definitely deserves a real discussion. …
Hi, all. The following is a conversation that never took place (but probably should have, and still might). I suspect this will resonate with you. “Mrs. Cohen” is a composite figure and the social worker is yours truly. Enjoy. Hi, Mrs. Cohen, do you have a few minutes to talk? I’m calling with a suggestion for you. Oh! …
If someone gave me a written exam on parenting, I think I’d get an A. Over the years I have really tried to learn a lot about what kids need and how they develop, and to that end I have read a number of books, etc. But — when it comes to applying this learning in a real-life situation with …
It goes without saying that life will never be the same. We are living through a moment in history unlike anything we’ve experienced in our lifetimes. And earth-shaking changes like this make most everything else seem trivial by comparison. There will be time to write and talk about other things soon enough (and I intend to, on this blog), but …
How quickly the world turns upside down! Do you even remember life before COVID-19? When I was blogging about stuff like shidduch pictures (lol)? It was another reality…but we will get back there, please G-d! And as Rabbi Manis Friedman said in a video clip I saw, we will have a healthier planet and a nobler human race when we do. …
