Best Story Ever
Last week I read the best story ever in Family First. It is the most thorough account I have ever read of what it is like to be in shidduchim for a long time and hear a million voices doubting you and making you doubt yourself.
Category: Relationships
Dating Optimism: Live a Happy Life
Hey, all. We are up to the most fun phase (in my opinion) of the finding your half-orange process! It’s time to let go of the pressure to get married and just live a happy life! After all, if one of the main reasons we want to get married is to be happy, why not skip straight to the happiness …
Singles Events and Dating Sites
A reader asked what I thought of singles events like speed dating and dating sites like Saw You At Sinai. I can only comment on the first from my own experience but if any of you have thoughts about either, please share in the comments! I went through a short period about 5-6 years ago when I went to …
Dating Optimism: Focus, Imagine, and Embody
Hey, all, we are back with the next installment of our dating optimism series. The first step we talked about was believing you can and will marry someone you truly like and want to marry. The second step was embracing your deep desire to get married to someone you truly like and want to marry and not going halfway in …
Dating Optimism: What Do You Want?
Hi, everyone. I hope you are doing well. Onto some more dating optimism! Step #1 was about focusing on your belief that you can have what you dream of. Step #2 was about going all in on wanting it even if it’s scary or uncomfortable. Step #3 is about identifying what it is that you really want. For …
Dating Optimism: Admit You Want It
Hi, everyone. Last week we started working through the six steps in the book Meeting Your Half-Orange, by Amy Spencer. To recap, the first step is to connect to the belief inside of you that you truly can have the relationship you dream of, focus on improving the quality of your thoughts around dating and marriage, and frame your thoughts …
Trusting Your Gut
Hey, all, I just wanted to give a shoutout to an amazing episode on Singled Out all about trusting your gut. I felt tremendously validated and soothed by the words shared by Ariella Azaraf, LCSW. Some takeaways: We become conditioned to believe that other people know the truth. To listen to your gut, you have to really trust yourself. …
Dating Optimism: Believe You Can Have It
Hey, all. For the next bit I’d like to do a series based on the book Meeting Your Half-Orange: An Utterly Upbeat Guide to Using Dating Optimism to Find Your Perfect Match, by Amy Spencer. The book is divided into six steps to help you, well, meet your half-orange, also known as your perfect match. I’ve started reading this book …
Radical Optimism vs. Toxic Positivity
Hey, everyone, let’s talk about healthy positivity. The two terms in the title of this post are different ways of being optimistic/positive. Radical optimism is the belief that life is good and that we have the right to trust in positive outcomes, despite the difficulties and challenges we face and the misgivings we feel. Toxic positivity is the refusal …
Is He Really Out There?
The #1 concern shared by my readers (and by me) is the question: how do I know my husband is really out there? How do I know I’ll find him? And what if I don’t? You have probably discussed this with people over the years and been reminded that the bas kol proclaimed “bas ploni l’ploni” 40 days before …