Back when I posted the survey (Pesach time), someone asked if I could write about my relationship with my younger married sister. At the time I wasn’t ready to share but now more time has passed and I would like to. I’ll begin with where we are today which is: Our relationship is completely normal (thank You, Hashem!! more …
A few years ago I learned of the concept of the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) by Dr. Elaine Aron. The concept resonated with me so I took the quiz and discovered that I am just about on the border of testing as an HSP. According to Dr. Aron’s research, HSPs comprise about 20% of the population. HSPs have heightened …
A reader asked for a post on this topic. What to do when you are feeling that desperate ache, when things look bleak or you can’t stop crying? I so relate to this question. I can write about it objectively but I’ve also been right in the middle of it. First, know that this too shall pass. In most …
Continuing the thread from last week about bashert/ “missing your bashert.” Sometimes in shidduchim it feels like everything comes with this extreme sense of urgency: If you say no to them now, they’ll be gone forever! If you don’t get back to them quickly, they’re going to move on! If you take a break, you’ll miss your opportunity! This isn’t …
You may be wondering what apartment living looks like when it comes to shidduchim. The truth is it hasn’t been much different from dating from my parents’ house (but the little difference it’s made has been positive)! I generally date from my apartment. I let the shadchan know to let the guy know that I will be waiting outside and …
A few nights ago I was thinking about the concept of bashert and of “missing your bashert.” I was left with more questions than answers. What does it mean to have a bashert or to miss your bashert? Does it mean you can turn down the one person you would have been happiest with? The person who would have …
When you move into an apartment, of course, the most important thing is who you are living with. What’s it like to live with roommates? Before you sign on with a roommate, you should exchange references and look into each other. Really! Awkward as that sounds, it’s important and you should both do it. Also, you aren’t obligated to …
A few weeks ago I downloaded this cute, free app, Soulmate Cards, and I’ve been reading at least one card a day 🙂 . It always lifts my spirits — I really enjoy it — so I wanted to share. (These cards are based on the book Love Will Find You which I mentioned in this post, and yes, it’s …
What’s it like being a single woman in an apartment over Shabbos or Yom Tov? Since I moved at the height of COVID, my roommates and I made many, many Shabbos meals together before we could start going out for meals. Some of us have also done a bit of Y”T in the apartment. Here are some things I learned. …
We keep our apartment clean by cleaning communal spaces once a week and cleaning up after ourselves as we go. We do not have a cleaning lady on a regular basis, but we did have one a handful of times and it was nice 😉 . My roommates and I have divided up the main jobs that need to be …
