Just dropping some more chizuk here — two of my friends’ sisters in their upper 30’s just got engaged. They were on my challah list for the past year and a half, and now I can never rewrite that list onto a fresh piece of paper because nothing makes me as happy as seeing a line through their names! And …
I just want to drop a little chizuk here. One of my cousins struggled a lot with shidduchim like I do. Thinking she must be too sensitive, too picky, too needy, too something. It was after one of our conversations that I wrote the article about being an HSP in shidduchim, based on what we talked about. Then she met …
I tend to write blog posts on various topics in spurts (like hope, or optimism, or mindfulness). Well, now I am doing creativity. I just put this book on hold at the library and I’m thinking about ordering this one on Amazon. Being in shidduchim is Nonlinear – There is no straight line or direct relationship between the input …
I find myself drawn to books about creativity and the creative life, like Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert, The Vein of Gold by Julia Cameron, The Power of Your Other Hand by Lucia Capacchione…My blog is a creative outlet and I have dozens of (abandoned) ideas for creative projects in my Google Docs. The link between creativity and being in …
Over the years, I have thought about a common experience that comes up in shidduchim. Sometimes it happens before a date or even when I know someone is working on an idea for me. I find myself counting on this one thing working out. I start believing that if it doesn’t, the disappointment will just be too hard. I’ve thought …
I just had to share the link to this TED Talk with Barbara Sher (author of Refuse to Choose!, among other books, mentioned here). In this speech, she describes the role of virtual strangers in helping us achieve our dreams. So good. Barbara passed away in 2020, or I would have totally tried to meet her in person after watching …
Sociologist Mark Granovetter wrote that the most successful networking usually happens between acquaintances rather than close friends. This is because friend groups tend to know a lot of the same people whereas more distant acquaintances can link us up with new connections (like their own friend groups). Relationships with acquaintances are known as “weak ties” and studies show that …
Hey, all. Eons ago I started reading The Hidden Life of Trees by Peter Wohlleben and I recently picked it up again and was struck by this amazing statistic: Every tree leaves behind, on average, one tree to replace it. In other words, of all the thousands and millions of seeds a tree produces in its lifetime, an average of …
Hello, all. First I must apologize for not writing all week — I’d been in a good groove with posting but last week was hectic. I’m pleased to share that dinner went really well! It was four of us and we had the nicest time. The hour flew by and we all agreed we must do it again soon. …
A while ago I wrote about how I am comfortable with my married friends because most of them got married after some time in shidduchim and we can still relate to each other. Recently, I ventured into new terrain — reconnecting with married classmates who I have not been in touch with for awhile and/or who got married a long …
