A friend and I were talking about how similarly we feel about certain experiences in shidduchim (what makes us feel stressed, pressured, or judged), and how we have found that other people feel differently. This reminded me of one of Gretchen Rubin’s Secrets of Adulthood: We are mostly alike, but our differences are very important.
I also thought about this post I wrote awhile back about Highly Sensitive People in shidduchim. Some of us just are more innately sensitive to and affected by certain kinds of experiences (that other people might not care about or shrug off). And it’s okay! The whole spectrum of experience is okay. We all process in different ways, we feel differently, we need different things.
There’s no competition for who has it hardest, but shidduchim is awfully hard for deeply intuitive people, I believe.
